Motherhood is one tough gig


You know, my blog name was a no-brainer — motherhood has been a tougher gig than I ever anticipated. Every accomplishment, success, making it to through the day I’ve seen has been the product of sweat, tears (lots of tears), joy and love.

Motherhood is a tricky place for a type-A perfectionist. It’s a tougher place for someone who isn’t a natural…and fears making mistakes. (Try not passing THAT on to your children.)

There is no place for “I can’t”. You just do.

There was a time when I didn’t think my then-four month old son would ever sleep through the night. There were days I seriously thought my daughter would be the exception to the rule and go off to uni in diapers.

The parenting books confused me, “What to Expect” books terrified me…and in the end, I learned to trust my own judgement. The mommy gut. You know, that thing that makes you bulldog your way to see at doctor at A&E when you’re pretty sure the duty nurse at the local surgery was smoking some serious rope when she looked at your son…

The thing inside that makes you push for a evaluation because You know something was going on with your 9 month old daughter, more than being a finicky nurser. (Mama was right – she had torticollis, the worst the therapist had ever seen, and she sailed through physical therapy like a champ.)

And for every moment of panic, uncertainty, confusion, overwhelm – there have been a thousand – no, a million- moments of joy, pride, and happiness. Yes, this motherhood gig is tough, made tougher by having bright, curious children who challenge me to be the best mom I can be.

And I’ve realized that is all I can ask of myself – to be present in their daily lives, involved and supportive, and do the best that I can do.


And put money aside for the years of therapy that will surely follow.

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Happy Mother’s Day to all the fabulous, frustrated, wonderful moms I know.



  1. Happy Mother’s Day, Sweetie!!

  2. Nobody ever said motherhood was a snap. Think it was easier in my day than in yours. But I can honestly say that both my daughters have turned out to be great mothers. Love you. Have a great mothers day even though they aren’t celebrating it there today.

  3. Certainly the most challenging, heart wrenching yet rewarding job we will ever have! Happy belated mothers day to you!

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